After the baby arrives

Having a baby is a big change. Many new mothers feel tearful, anxious or very tired in the first days. That is common, and usually settles in about two weeks. If sadness, worry or numbness continues, it may be perinatal depression or anxiety. This is a health condition and not a failing.

In many Indian homes

• The confinement period, with rest, special food and relatives, can be loving. It can also feel lonely, restricting or full of advice.
• A stream of visitors can be tiring when you want to rest.
• If the baby is a girl, you may feel a pressure from family, or you may feel guilty. This is not your fault.
• Sleepless nights and feeding can leave you very low. It does not mean you do not love your baby.

What can help

• Sleep when the baby sleeps, and ask family to share night tasks.
• Say what you need: fewer visitors, quiet time, a meal made by someone else.
• Talk with someone, whether your mother, a friend, the ASHA or the ANM.
• Ask your doctor or the PHC about your mood at the check-up.

Please seek care soon if

You feel hopeless for more than two weeks, cannot sleep even when the baby does, are afraid of harming yourself or your baby, or hear or see things others do not. These need a doctor quickly. Help works, and you will not be judged.