Recognising coercive control

Abuse is not only about hitting. Coercive control is a pattern of behaviour that takes away a person's freedom and confidence. It is common, and many women are told it is simply 'how marriage is' or 'adjusting'. It is not your fault, and you are not imagining it.

What it can look like

• Being told what to wear, who to meet, when to go out.
• A husband or in-laws checking your phone, messages or call list.
• Control of money: no access to your salary, having to ask for every rupee, accounts you cannot see.
• Pressure for more dowry, or taunts about what your family gave.
• Being blamed for not having a son, for your cooking or for the house.
• Being cut off from your parents and friends.
• Threats, shouting, or fear of what comes next.

Your rights

The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005 covers physical, emotional, sexual and economic abuse. It gives you the right to live in the shared household, and to ask for protection, maintenance and support. A Protection Officer in your district can help you apply.

Where to get help

• Women Helpline 181, for support and referral.
• A One Stop Centre (Sakhi) in your district gives support, counselling and legal help in one place.
• A Protection Officer or the district legal services authority.
• In immediate danger, call 112.