Relationships
What a healthy relationship feels like
Respect, trust and freedom, whether with a friend, a partner or a family.
Who it is for: Young people and adults thinking about friendships, love and marriage.
Format: Text, about 4 minutes to read
In a healthy relationship, you can be yourself and still feel safe. Both people listen, share decisions and can say no. Love, whether in a friendship, a love marriage or an arranged one, does not need fear to hold it together.
Signs of a healthy bond
- You can disagree without being threatened, shouted at or ignored for days.
- You can see your friends and family when you wish.
- Your phone, money and time remain yours.
- Each of you celebrates the other's small wins.
- Saying no, to a plan or to touch, is respected.
Signs to think about
- Constant checking of where you are, or who you speak to.
- Jealousy treated as proof of love.
- Being made to feel guilty for spending time with others.
- Being pressured about sex, or about leaving studies or work.
- Being afraid of the other person's reaction.
Many of us grew up seeing control called care. It is worth asking, 'Do I feel free here?' A trusted friend, an older relative or a counsellor can help you think this through.
If you feel unsafe or are being hurt, see the guide on recognising coercive control, or call the Women Helpline on 181. If someone is in immediate danger, call 112.
This is general information. It is not a substitute for care from a doctor or counsellor. If someone is in immediate danger, call 112.
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